Hi Torsten, thanks for the feedback! I'll try dropping the voltage and see what happens: long life is important for me.
I started by using a constant current source, but it's actually quite a difficult task to design a reliable, cheap constant current source for such a thing, so that idea went in the bin. I'm using 3 cheap forward biased diodes to drop the voltage from 5V down to 3.2V for three heaters in series.
About the heater bias: I am multiplexing the tubes and therefore using 60-70V to drive them (specified maximum), and the difference in the heater voltage doesn't appear to matter at all. Getting it to work well is tricky, but I'm taking care of that in software by doing all of the non-display processing (e.g. handling the web server requests in the period between digits to allow the capactive residual voltage on the segment bus to decay sufficiently so that there is no bleed over. I'm using only high side drivers, so this is a real problem. Luckily there are lots of other things going on, so I have enough useful work to do between digits.
I'm almost certainly moving over to the Wemos for everything after the experience of doing this. I'm not to the end of the software yet, there are still quite a few improvements to do, but right now, it's a fully featured VFD clock with a web interface and NTP time control including DST for about $10 parts cost. The Nixie clocks will follow in due course. The next major update will go to Wemos drive.